Or when you say that you're the type of woman who doesn't get along with other women, I don't know what to think about you. Not that it should matter to you (or anyone else for that matter), but women who don't like women are an odd breed to me. Women who think lowly of women are strange to me. They take experiences with a few and lump all of us together in their scalding hot cauldron and assume that the worst will happen with future encounters.
I've had some negative experiences with women. I've CREATED some negative experiences with women. But the one thing I know is that ALL women are not evil. All women are not treacherous. All women are not responsible for what's wrong with the world. When women are hurting, they change the world. Sometimes their methods are loving. Sometimes they are not.
And because I believe that we both create and sustain our beliefs, I can see why we experience life the way we do.
I had the pleasure of taking part in a Sister Circle created and facilitated by DeBora Ricks and Lisa Punter. I've been working hard on self the last 10 years so there were a lot of reinforcements to lessons I've already experienced. The new lessons I learned helped me to navigate through current challenges in my life. But the biggest blessing from the experience was bonding with women in a meaningful and purposeful way. We loved each other ON PURPOSE. We came together ON PURPOSE. We worked on self together ON PURPOSE. We showed up ON PURPOSE and WITH PURPOSE to create meaningful experiences for ourselves and each other. That's what love is to me. That is what sisterhood is to me.
I've created bonds with women who were determined to break some of the chains that held them back. I am forever grateful for the experience and for the opportunity to show women that I love them for who they are.
So the first 2014 Perspectives Women & Men's Rap Session went down this past weekend and it was a success. I enjoyed seeing a lot of my friends whom I haven't seen in quite some time. I also enjoyed the opportunity to meet some of my social media friends face-to-face finally.
Special shout out to Terrence Joseph and Darwin Antoine for their hospitality and professionalism. Please be sure to check the Perspectives Rap Session page for captured moments.
We discussed chemical love vs emotional love, lessons from our parents that continue to and no longer serve us, going dutch on the first date as an option, and when women's shoes don't fit, among other interesting topics.
I'm thankful for the continued interest and support and look forward to facilitating the next one next month.
I think that we're presented with plenty of opportunities to be authentic and to practice authenticity in our lives. As a recovering people pleaser, I know all too well how making wanting to be liked, needed, and accepted a priority in my life led me to compromise my own authenticity.
I jumped in to help people when I really didn't know what I was doing. I participated in activities to win people over. I committed to things that didn't serve a higher purpose. (They served a purpose, still, but not the purpose that I would have intentionally served).
My desire to help must be met with the spirit of discernment and an opportunity to ponder the opportunity. Sometimes, it can be an instant no to someone's request. Other times, it can be a not right now.
The older you get the more you realize exactly how precious your time and energy and effort are....and how much they are worth.
Thanks for reading <3
I'm Ellen Gee. When I'm honest, we learn things. When I'm not, we learn things too.
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